There’s no set of rules or measure of time to describe a “normal” sexual experience. How long you and your partner engage in foreplay and how quickly you climax differs everytime you have sex and is part of the joy of the experience. In fact, controlling the pace is half the fun and can allow you and your partner to climax together. But if the encounter ends abruptly because you ejaculate before penetration or shortly after, the choice is made for you.
Up to 30% of men experience premature ejaculation (PE), making it the most common type of male sexual dysfunction. At Balanced Medical Solutions in Hayward, California, our team of sexual wellness experts help men understand and overcome PE so they can reclaim control over their timing in the bedroom. Here’s what you need to know.
When to see a doctor about premature ejaculation
Most men ejaculate too early every now and then, so occasional occurrences are nothing to worry about. Here are some questions to help you decide whether you should come see us for evaluation and possible treatment.
How often do you experience PE? If you answer is always or almost always, it’s best to have the issue checked. If you have some normal ejaculations mixed with bouts of PE, you may have variable premature ejaculation. Either way, we can help.
When did the symptoms begin?
If you’ve only had a couple of PE experiences, don’t panic. Often PE is a temporary response to anxiety, relationship problems, stress, and other emotions.
However, if you’ve been experiencing PE for months or years, you may have secondary PE, which means you developed it at a certain point in your life even though you once had longer-lasting ejaculations.
Or you may have primary PE, where you’ve struggled with the issue since your first sexual experience. Our team is well-versed in all types of PE and can help you get to the bottom of your condition.
Is it affecting your life?
The main reason to come see us about PE is when it’s affecting your life and your relationships. If you’re embarrassed by past PE experiences, frustrated with the problem, and filled with anxiety over your performance, you may be avoiding sex and damaging your personal relationships.
In fact, PE tends to cause a cyclical problem that affects your mental and emotional wellbeing, which in turn exacerbates PE.
Premature ejaculation is treatable
Treatment for you PE depends entirely on what’s causing it. If mental health (depression or anxiety) or emotional issues (relationship challenges) were present before PE, you may need assistance in that area to resolve your PE.
If your PE stems from physical or biological conditions, we address the underlying reason. These might include:
- Low testosterone
- Excessive alcohol consumption
- Substance abuse
- High blood pressure
- Infection or inflammation
- Nerve damage
Our team assesses your condition and determines the best course of treatment. Once your medical condition clears up, PE usually goes away as well.
Often, conservative treatments you can do at home are all it takes to improve PE.
One way is to practice controlling your ejaculation. Either you or your partner can stimulate your penis until you’re close to ejaculation, then stop until you regain control. Do this three times, then on the fourth, allow yourself to finish and ejaculate normally.
Squeezing your penis firmly when you’re close to ejaculation is another method. This weakens your erection and allows you to delay ejaculation. It also trains you to recognize the sensations that lead to ejaculation so you can consciously control the process.
Pelvic floor exercises called Kegel exercises can help strengthen the muscles that control ejaculation. You can do them anywhere and at any time and no one will know. You simply tighten the same muscles you would if you needed to stop urinating midstream. Contract and relax these muscles throughout the day.
If these measures don’t help, we offer medications that often provide an effective solution to PE.And once you’re back on track, we even offer performance optimization treatments that can help enhance your stamina, erections, and orgasms.
You don’t have to live with premature ejaculation. Treatments are typically simple and effective. The first step is finding what is causing your PE so you can finally take control of your ejaculations again. To schedule an appointment, contact us today. We’re open Monday through Saturday.